Posts by Kim Gotlieb

Breathing: a Rumi Poem

There is a way of breathing That’s a shame and a suffocation And there’s another way of expiring, A love breath, That lets you open infintely. Rumi Taking time to deepen the breath, is a wonderful way to stay connected to the physical body and the present moment – a momentary reprive from the thinking…

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Indigenous Male Fertility Rites

  There is an African tribe which has a ritual where in which the men gather in sacred ritual space and dry hump the earth and masturbate as a group. It is a fertility rite, which links them both as an erotic brotherhood and connects their erotic lives with the rhythms of nature. Regrettably much…

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Dynamics of Intimate Engagement : Relating, Trance & Role

          “Life is a daring adventure, or nothing.”  – Helen Keller Relating, Trance and Role are the three aspects of our relationship style thatyou want to be able to identify in yourself and your potential partner. Relating focuses on the “we” in your interactions. It can include communicating, making eye contact…

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Sexuality as Social Research

Online Presentation to University course on Sexuality My subject is  Sexuality as Social Research Imagine your next pick-up line being, “I have some homework from my university course. Would you be willing to help me with some ‘social research’?”…or slowing down your more habitual sex practice to ask,”So what happens if I apply a little…

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Finding our way home: the purpose of therapy

“I believe that we are each working towards unfolding our truth, moving towards a deeper connection with our essence: either slowly or fast, through conflict or meditation, through illness or relationship, or whatever presents itself in our lives.These are the tools for our transformation. Quantum Physics shows us in “field theory” that everything is much…

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5 Obstacles to Erotic Vitality for Men

1. Religious Repressive Sex-Negative Culture Roman & Greek cultures were significantly more sex-positive and erotically expressive than the Judeo-Christian culture in which we have been immersed. Whether you believe in these moral principles or have found an alternative narrative, they remain a cornerstone of our identity. It is important for each of us to explore…

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